Sunday, November 30, 2008
I know that sometimes people say that I can a little overboard with certain things. And I agree that I do have my ways about certain things. There are just some things that I think should and should not be done in a home that prides itself on refinement. For example, I don’t wear shoes in my home. Guests can leave them at the door in exchange for some socks that they’d find in either the male basket or female basket. Some people laugh at me, however, I just feel that what you wear on your feet outside should not be worn in your home. Now, I come from dirty New York streets and would never want anything that I step on out there in my home. LOL. So, when I started to keep my own home (wherever I lived when I moved from my parents), I did not like shoes being worn in my house. I do have other “antsy” customs and ways on how I keep my home and certain things that are just not allowed or must be done, ex: no street clothes on the bed, only clean dishes on the “clean dishes side” of the sink, no dirty dishes should be left in the sink (especially over night or if you leave the house), wash your hands as soon as you come in or even open the front doors, and so many more that sometimes I drive people absolutely crazy. I have a friend that calls and every time they call, I am cleaning my bathroom (as I do at least twice a day LMAO). They say, “What are you doing Sci, Cleaning your bathroom?” LMAO However, I will not stop!!! I recently went to someone’s home and their floor looked like it hadn’t been cleaned in a very long time and their bathroom, well, it nauseates me to even talk about it. This was a woman too. And I know that woman are traditionally known as being cleaner than men, but this was way out of bounds. This wasn’t “Oh, I missed a day or two.” This was more like “I missed a year or two.” Now, don’t get me wrong, sometimes, I may miss a few days of mopping if it doesn’t need to be done, I’d just get on hands and knees and clean some problem areas. Keep in mind that my whole house besides one area rug is bamboo and that’s a lot of damn mopping! I do slip up sometimes on dusting. By that I mean than I may only get to it once a week. Then it drives me crazy. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting your home to look like t could be in a home magazine. LOL Don’t worry, I’m not crazy, just passionate. LOL. What are some customs that you keep in your Queendom / Kingdom that maybe we can all learn from and incorporate in ours?
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
I had an interesting conversation with a God the other day. He felt that it was a woman’s “job” to have babies. He said that she had to have at least one child. He said that people who decide not to have children are selfish. I found it interesting because although I work in the childbirth field and respect a woman’s ability to give birth, I also respect a persons decision to not have any children if they don’t want any. Why have children just because? I told him that having children just to have them was selfish. I don’t think that you have to have physical children to leave your mark in this world. I know traditionally, it was a given that women in our nation would born babies and men would just continue to fertilize even to the point of having 5,6,7,8,9,10 or more, which is fine, if that‘s what they wanted. However, I don’t think that a women is any less of a woman if she decides not to have children or a man is any less of a man if he decides not to have children. I know that many will disagree with me because I’ve heard many people build on this. Would you say that a woman is not the Earth until she gives birth and a man is not God until he goes hard? Hmmmm.
Sunday, November 23, 2008
First off, I have to give props to Allah Jihad for helping me bring this build to its full inception. It had been on my mind ever since our Family Day (4th Annual Harvest in Allah's Garden) out here in Atlanta back in October, but the God used the phrase "internet educators" in a build we had today and it really sparked my transition of thought into words...
It seems like ever since the inception of myspace – well, since my personal awareness of and activity on myspace – a new breed of so-called Gods and Earths have emerged – those who have learned about the culture of the 5% from “internet educators”. What is an "INTERNET EDUCATOR" you ask? Typically, a God who is supposedly teaching a sista or brotha whom he has met ONLINE ONLY about the culture of the Gods and Earths, Supreme Mathematics, Supreme Alphabet, and 120 Lessons. Typically, this person has never been met IN THE PERSON and he has not shown and proven himself to be true to his word nor truly living out the culture he claims, and so his knowledge and wisdom is taken on face value by the brothas and sistas seeking education and usually (until warned) don't know any better. Many of these brothas and sistas supposedly being educated by these mysterious Gods have gotten their 120 Lessons emailed to them online, have been shown pictures from the Earths myspace pages in order to emulate their dress and headwraps, posted Universal Flags on their pages to garner the attention and acceptance of other Gods and Earths online, have Wu-Tang Clan, Big Daddy Kane, Rakim, Busta Rhymes and Brand Nubian on their song lists to show that they’re aware of the Gods’ influence on hip hop, and have taken on a lengthy name (for the sistas, often GIVEN to them by their “internet educator”) after merely READING the Supreme Mathematics and Supreme Alphabet – never mind applying the principles (unless application is considered writing a poem with “knowledge”, “wisdom”, “understanding”, “culture”, “power” and the like sprawled throughout the verses) or understanding them and their purposefulness.
To the sistas, when you are interested in learning more about the Nation of Gods and Earths and in studying the Math, Alphabet and 120 Lessons, and come across a “God” who sparks your attraction online (be it mentally or physically) here are some things to consider:
Have you first made an effort to find and contact Gods and Earths in your own area, before building with someone who resides in a different city or state?
Have you attended any rallies, classes or NGE gatherings in your city so that you can meet the collective of Gods/Earths and based on each potential educator’s degree of knowledge, how they live and apply what they know, how their personality and character meld with yours, and their community involvement determine who would be best suited to guide you through your studies?
If you met your “educator” online, when will you meet him in person? (You can only know a person truly if you have walked with them in addition to talking with them. A person can tell you anything they desire, but you can see the truth only if you observe with your five senses.)
Even if your educator is not in your area, do you still make an effort to connect with those you claim to be in "our Nation" in the person? (A Nation is a collective of people with common laws and culture. Consider this, if you do not spend time among that group of people, especially when you are what we call a "newborn" - new to the studies and culture of the Nation of Gods & Earths - how are you part of "our Nation"?)
If you do not live in that Gods/Earths city nor state, and therefore can't see for yourself, can others in his city or state verify that he is true and living, can they vouch for his sincerity, works, and knowledgeableness?
If that God resides in a different city, does he come around in his own city and support local ventures – like rallies, classes, seeds outings and programs, community outreach programs, family day, etc.? Does he not only attend but also assist in the planning of these ventures?
Is your “educator” encouraging you to self-reflect and self-correct, or are they ONLY praising you on being the Queen that you are (even though you’ve put forth no hard labor to refine… BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF, YOU’LL BE BETTER FOR IT)?
Is your “educator” bringing to light your faults - so not to build you up on faulty ground (which prevents your crumbling upon experiencing your first earthquake)?
Do you build with proven Earths, or only your God/educator? (A man can teach you how to be HIS Earth according to his laws at home and follow his rules and regulations abroad; he cannot SHOW you how to be AN Earth regardless to whom or what. As they say, "actions speak louder than words", so only another woman can SHOW you through her WAYS and ACTIONS how to BE an Earth.)
Is your educator demanding that you read and learn about the history of the Nation of Gods and Earths, materials that teach you about being - and help you become - an educated and refined (with refined mentality, ways and actions, and physical appearance) Black WOMAN, does he explain what it means in tangible and applicable terms what it is to be a true and living God and Earth and what it means for YOU to be "Mother of CIVILIZATION", does he teach you about the duty of a civilized person (to teach others once you are QUALIFIED to do so), does he teach you that learning and refining is an INIFINITE process and to never limit whom or what you can learn from, is he teaching you the knowledge of God (how to be a and/or his Queen) AND knowledge of SELF (how to be an Earth)?
These questions are intended for YOU to answer for the sake of your own wellbeing and proper education. As I said above BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF, YOU'LL BE ALL THE BETTER FOR IT!
Eboni Joy Asiatic
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Not sure how many of us are aware that November is "Hip Hop History Month". Here in Atlanta, on November 1st, there was a panel discussion (and concert that followed) called “Meeting of the Minds” that opened the month us with a broad discussion about many things including inter-personal relationships, works we do in the hood to save our people, health and nutrition, etc, that can all be correlated with the elements of hip hop. There were a few hip hop heads on the panel - stic.man of dead prez, staHHr the femcee, Dr. taj anwar of Crew Love and MOBB, and more. One stand-out member of the panel was Minister Server who is a Hip Hop Life Coach" and (as his website states - http://www.hiphopministries.org/Splash_Screen.html) has spent "5 years dedicated to the development, growth and preservation of HipHop culture", he is KRS-ONE’s spiritual advisor, and heads the Temple of Hip Hop. One thing that Minister Server reminded us of at the discussion was that Hip Hop is not just about music, IT IS A CULTURE, a way of life that includes the elements of “Breakin, Emceein, Graffiti Art, DeeJayin, Beatboxin, Street Fashion, Street Language, Street Knowledge and Street Entrepreneurialism.”
I, like many in my age range, came up during Hip Hop’s “golden era” when – aside from NWA and 2 Live Crew – the only rap you heard was either conscious or fun lovin’. Times have changed, BUT we don’t have to change for the worst with them and neither do our listening habits. Minister Server’s build below is about “RENUNCIATION” – an act or instance of relinquishing, abandoning, repudiating or sacrificing something. In the Nation of Gods and Earths we study the Supreme Mathematics – a set of core principles that, when applied, help one to lead a righteous, purpose driven life. Within the math are the principles ‘build’ and ‘destroy’. We have to build ourselves up while simultaneously destroying the mis-teachings, misgivings, negative thoughts and behavioral patterns that have kept down, kept us from acknowledging and achieving our greatness – as individuals and, most importantly, as a people.
Although times have changed, and hip hop has changed with it, there are some great acts making edutaining, powerful, uplifting music. Some of the hip hop music I listen to that helps me to meditate, “renounce”, and “relax, relate, release” negative thoughts, ways and behavior is Lupe Fiasco, M.I.A., RXC - Classic 1824, staHHr, Jay Electronica, Talib Kweli, Mos Def, dead prez, A-Alikes, Jedi Mind Tricks, The Coup, Murs, Common, Little Brother, Immortal Technique, Wise Intelligent, Lord Jamar, The Roots and more.
Anyway, here’s a little something that may help you “breathe and stop”, “be stilled” and at peace…
Eboni Joy Asiatic
NOVEMBER 2008 "FOOD FOR THE SPIRIT"©
Sunday, November 16, 2008
For our Winter 2008 issue of The 14th Degree and Beyond, we ask:
"How will the Black family benefit or be hindered by the results of the presidential election? "
For the most part, reaction has been empowering, positive, and hopeful, however as conscious and cognizant individuals, is this really what we have to look forward to? Tell us how you see it!
Q. Victorious Lanasia Math
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
In speaking with her on that day, she always reminisced about something that that happened during my birth, or when I was a baby, or something really funny I said as a child. I remember her telling me this story about when I was just about 6 months old and she was living with her sister in Brooklyn. She had laid me down in the middle of a Queen size bed to warm up my bottle. After about 5 minutes or so, she came back into the room and I wasn't where she had left me. She immediately thought someone had kidnapped me! I was laughing so hard when she told me this story! She told me after running around the house looking for me, she came back to the room and heard these little noises from the side of the bed and apparently I had fell asleep after rolling off the bed and was wedged in between the bed and the wall. I wasn't sure why she was telling me the story at first, but she later told me that it was at that moment that she realized how much she loved and wanted me. Apparently before that, both instances were questionable. I think of this now, because my own daughter will soon be 3 years old and I find myself experiencing some of the same feelings that I work through, the overwhelming physical, mental, and financial demands of single parenting, and in that, remembering all of the things my mother used to tell me when I was growing up to keep my foundation grounded.
I was hardheaded, still am in a lot of ways. However, her words of wisdom got me to a place where I finished high school, was not a teen mother, didn't abuse drugs, finished college and graduate school, and built a career for myself. We have all taken different paths to become the great women and Queens that we are, and many times, our "Mama" helped us along the way with her guidance, strength, and sometimes a few whoopings on the behind. My "Mama" wasn't always my physical maternal parent - sometimes it was my auntie, or grandma, or older cousin, elder Earth, or even our best friend who was wise beyond her years. Most of all though, it was my physical mother. One of the most valuable lessons she taught me was that "anything you put your mind to do, can be achieved if you work hard at it." As religious as she was, she always stressed that no God or Jesus Christ was going to give me an "A" in Chemistry, put food on my table or a roof over my head... get off your ass and make your goals a reality!! Another thing she used to say to me all the time - "Cow neva know de use a him tail till him lose it." LOL. (You know Jamaicans always got that one saying...) Basically it translates to mean that we never know how useful the things we have been blessed with are, until they are gone. She reminded me always to not taken anything or anyone that I have in my life for granted, nor do not let anyone take me for granted either. I always kept that with me.
So I ask, What are some things your "Mama" used to tell you that you still hold with you today? Do you find yourself becoming your own Mother to your children?
Q. Victorious Lanasia Math
Sunday, November 9, 2008
We all have aspirations of what we want to live our life doing. I always wanted to be a songwriter and author. I also had an incling to work in fashion. I am blessed to be doing all three at this point in my life. I started making 5 year plans about ten years ago... and I found that they work. Sometimes... it will surprise you when you look and find that you are doing exactly what you said you would 5 years ago. I am working on my next five years and am excited about what I will achieve.
What I usually do is take what I am doing now... and see how I can improve it.
What resources do I have now that can help me accomplish my future goals?
What system do I need to do to perfect what I am doing now?
What is the time frame that I am giving myself to finish each step?
How can I do all of this without having to be around people long enough for them to get on my nerves? lol.
What is it that you do to help you achieve your goals? How has that helped you to become successful in your own right? For those who don't know where to start... what are your aspirations... perhaps there are others who can help you get on your way.
One thing that is important to know is that though others can and sometimes will help you... it's up to YOU to make it happen.
Q. Civilized Zag
Side bar: I have admitted road rage issues. lol. I have even chased someone down for almost causing an accident with my children and I. To me... we all have some place to go... otherwise we would be home right? If it's not as urgent for you to get there... stay in the right lane. As much as I like driving I do find myself almost..transforming in the car because I must admit... if someone is tailgating... I start braking... driving slow as h*ll (don't act like you don't do it lol). I also, get extremely frustrated at the non usage of turn signals or stopping 100 ft before the light turns red. Pardon self all... just had to get that off my chest. lol
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Sunday, November 2, 2008
With all of the issues that we are having with the economy right now, and even though gas prices are down a bit. How are you cutting back on expenses? I know some of us have been cutting back in area having to do with entertainment. For example, instead of going to the movies or Blockbuster, we have decided to borrow from libraries. In the Grocery Department, instead of buying olive oil, we have switched to safflower oil or something a little less expensive. And to cut back on toilet tissue, some of us have... Nah, Just kidding. Seriously though, I'm interested to see how we as women have been cutting back on expenses. Have you been preparing more affordable meals for your families? Have you cut back on yourself to make sure that your children have? Do you feel that there are just certain things that you are not willing to give up or even compromise? Have you picked up a little side hustle to make ends meet? Let's share some tips and ideas. I know I could use a few more.