Showing posts with label respect. Show all posts
Showing posts with label respect. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

The Beauty and Importance of 3/4's Refinement


Peace. My name is Queen Victorious Lanasia Earth. I came into the knowledge of myself in August 1998 and have embraced and loved every milestone, sidestep, misstep, and achievement along the way. My blog today will focus on wearing "3/4's" and "refinement" and how to embrace and accept the beauty and responsibility of being a Queen.

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"God loves to see his Original Woman in 3/4's..."

I remember hearing a sister say this at the International Earth Conference this past weekend in Pittsburgh, PA. And, of course, there were lots of headwraps and locked tresses nodding in agreement with smiles on their faces. We continued to speak about the Original Black Man (yes still being "man") may look at the women with the cleavage bustling and butt cheeks jingling from outside of their shorts, however, would this be the same woman that he would bring around his children, or bring to meet his Mother? When the Original Man knows his place in the Universe, he wants a Queen who knows and accepts hers... and all the beauty and responsibility that comes with it. This brought to mind the gross misconceptions I had when I came into the knowledge of myself 10 years ago and how I thought I would have to dress like Old Mother Hubbard to show the knowledge that I had accepted into my life. Not, that I dressed provacatively before that, however I immediately felt a sense of limitation, prudeness, and dullness. That fact is, when I first began my journey of refinement (one which I will forever be on), it took me years to find my sense of style while still reflecting the 120 degree of knowledge that I've absorbed. It took me, observing and speaking with other Queens, Earths, and Original Women whom I'd come to love and respect to figure out my sense of style.

First, I needed to really ask myself - what is "3/4's"? What is "Refinement"? For every Queen that you ask this question, you will get a different answer. For me, the answer has changed at least 120 times since I started asking it to myself. Before answering these questions, I had to take myself through the specific degrees in 120 lessons that are resourceful in answering these questions - at least for self. For you, it may be various scriptures in quoron or bible, or something your mama said that time when she was tearing up your behind for wearing that revealing tube top she told you not to, or just plain old common sense. The reality is, regardless if we know ourselves as Queen, Earth, Goddess, or not...we know that what we wear will determine who and what we attract. The important thing is that as "refined" sisters, sisters of consciousness, with knowledge of self, who KNOW our place in the Universe, and our importance to the wealth of our children, families, communities, and NATION, would want to outwardly express that knowledge through the clothing we place on our bodies. "3/4's" refers to the fraction makeup (three-fourths) of water to land on the physical planet Earth. Our lessons teach us "The earth is approximately covered under water approximately ¾ of its surface." I refer to the water being our wisdom, or the outward expression of the knowledge we possess, through the clothing I choose to put on my body. In essence, 3/4's is the essential physical makeup of clothing (water) to skin shown (land). This is extremely general by definition. "Refinement" is taking 3/4's to the next level. Refinement is the process by which we make what we know better, more elegant, more significant, and even more personal. It is purposeful definition of whatever it is we are dealing with - diet, habits, education, and our clothing. All of the Queens I know wear 3/4's, yet each have their own sense of refinement. Their own purposeful definition of how they see wearing a crown, their long skirts or slacks, their business attire for the office. The key thing for me is that 3/4's and refinement work together... yes, they can (and do) exist independently of each other, however the grace, beauty, and importance of how we express ourselves in this culture encomasses a fine balance between the two.

"If you want to know the wealth of your Nation, look at the Women."

If you want to know the wealth of your Nation (community, nuclear family, children), look at the Woman. When we substitute the word "Nation" with something more personal to us, does it give you a better understanding of not only dressing respectable, but also cultural, divine, dynamic, and beautiful? The responsibility that I uphold with knowing and understanding what and who I represent continues to demand that I strive to live and dress as a righteous original Woman.


What are your thoughts, questions, or comments on dress, 3/4's and/or refinement?? Do you see a difference between what is 3/4's and what is refinement??
PEACE

Monday, October 13, 2008

Marriage: I do or I don't???

Marriage:

1.the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc.
2. the state, condition, or relationship of being married; wedlock: a happy marriage.
3. the legal or religious ceremony that formalizes the decision of a man and woman to live as husband and wife, including the accompanying social festivities: to officiate at a marriage.
4. a relationship in which two people have pledged themselves to each other in the manner of a husband and wife, without legal sanction: trial marriage;
5. any close or intimate association or union: the marriage of words and music in a hit song.
6. a formal agreement between two companies or enterprises to combine operations, resources, etc., for mutual benefit; merger.

Peace -

I went to a wedding this Past weekend. It was beautiful and sweet and really nice to see the two people so happy and in love. And it got me to thinking... do I want this? The dress... the reception... the BILL at the end of it all??? While I am sure that my parents would love that for me... perhaps in my jaded view of things, I never thought it would happen for me and thus refined my thought of what MY marriage would be.

Do we go by the above definition of legalities or of the pledge between two people? I myself have learned never to just take someone's word for it. We must SHOW AND PROVE our commitment. Just because someone signs their honorable name to legal document and gets you a 3 carat ring does NOT mean that they will keep their word nor that it will last. It means that it will be THAT much harder to get rid of that muh-(bleep)...oh... woops. LOL. (Thanks OT Sensors).

Mind you the ceremony part is nice and the gathering of friends and family however - we could do that anytime with OUT the legalities correct? OR is the lack of security for individuals whom are NOT your spouse so great... that we are forced into this notion of what MUST be done in order to protect our families?

There is also the common-law spouse in some states...

common-law marriage
–noun
a marriage without a civil or ecclesiastical ceremony, generally resulting from an agreement to marry followed by the couple's living together as husband and wife.


If you reside with the individual for several years or more then you are considered to be husband and wife.

But what if your desire is not to reside with each other but just be together for yeaars? Are we any less commited? Those nights for XY and Z years that I wiped your nose and used my trusty tussin remedy doesn't count because I didn't come home to you everynight? Because I can only deal with you for 4 nights out of the week - before I want to be somewhere where I don't fall in the toilet in the middle of the night because you forgot to put the seat down... AGAIN... - that makes our years of commitment... less important then the married couple? Emphatically NO!!!

Let me know what you think!!! I thank you and appreciate your responses.

Peace

Q. Civilized Zag