A Woman's Worth

Peace. For a second, let's take "Earth" or "Queen" out of the makeup of who we are and just look at our basic - the woman. We, as women, are very complicated beings. As resiliant as we are in so many aspects, sometimes we can reduce ourselves to the lowest just based on how we are treated or spoken to by others in our lives. It is important that we do not allow others to dictate our self-worth and reduce our self-esteem to nothing. Instead we should surround ourselves with those who uplift, empower, and embrace who we are as women. Our self-worth can either be a cancer or an abundance of blessing in our lives and those that surround us, depending upon which way we chose.

Whether you realize it or not, others make determinations of our self-worth. When they see your man talk to you like with disrespect, your self-worth is calculated. When they hear the confidence in your voice when you give that marketing presentation at work, your self-worth is calculated.

What are the characteristics of self-worth?

HUMILITY – There is an understanding and realization that you are no better or worse than anyone else – and you behave in that fashion. Self knowledge brings on humility.

DIRECTION– It comes from getting to know who and what you are (identity). Knowing your strengths and weaknesses, positives and negatives, likes and dislikes (and why), an awareness of those activities giving you the greatest pleasures without looking for rewards (passions), and a knowledge of what your emotions say about you, giving you control over self (personal power).

LIVE IN THE MOMENT – This allows you to increase your scope of observation in everything, including human behavior (a major ingredient in recognizing truth and predicting events). Living in the moment leads one to the truth of one’s personal experience. Ideologists, bigots and racists lack the awareness to see people of all races, religions, nationalities, etc. are individual and don’t fit one type.

WILLING TO HELP OTHERS HELP THEMSELVES – There is a sense of community with one’s fellow man/woman. That you are your sister's keeper, and to help another is to help yourself.

BOOSTING YOUR SELF-WORTH:
1. Let go of your self-doubts by not ignoring them. Self doubts such as “I am not sure I can make this work" or “am I good enough?" can overpower you if you give in to them. Know what your self doubts are. Do the best you can to accept them without identifying yourself with their charged feelings. For these feelings are really not you. When you feel comfortable enough with the feelings, release them.

2. Remind yourself of your unique greatness. Most of us have made a habit of focusing our attention on our self doubts, that we end up losing sight of our greatness. Remind yourself often about how far you have come in your life. Think of all you have achieved up to now. Don't compare yourself to others. For you cannot be everything to everybody. Therein lies your unique greatness.

3. Invite people you know to tell you what attracts them to you. One of the things that can lower your self worth is not knowing how people feel about you. I have found that people who encourage other people for their feedback exude an indestructible sense of self worth.

What are some ways that you determine or measure your self worth?

Peace
Victorious Lanasia Earth

How to "keep" your husband...

Peace. Ok, before you get your headwrap in a bunch, this is not a blog claiming to tell you how to keep a man/God/husband with you... not at all. I'm the last person for that. In fact, I want to hear from you on your thoughts.


One of the great things about The 14th Degree and Beyond is the "beyond" part of it. We strive to activate cognizance in our readers and contributors to get you to take your degrees off the 4 corners of the page and make them walk and talk with purpose. I pulled this particular phrase "how to keep your husband..." from the 14th degree of the Lost-Found Muslim Lesson #1 (1-14) which asks the question:

What is the meaning of M.G.T. and G.C.C.? and the answer, in part, reads "Muslim Girls Training and General Civilization Class. These are the names given to the women and girls of Islam in North America, teaching them how to keep a home, how to raise their children, how to keep their husband..."

What sparked my blog are a few things - the stereotype that I see far too much in women in how they define "keeping" their husband, builds from the International Earth Conference on taking care of God, and what I have experienced and seen in self and my sisters who fail to take care of themselves within their cipher. It is the balance of these three things (and I'm sure alot of other things as well) that, in MY opinion, define "keeping" your husband.

When I looked up the word keep, I found 36 definitions of the word. The definitions that sparked me were "to be faithful to," "to have or maintain an established position in a relationship," "to preserve," "to stay in accord with," "conserve," "ENJOY."

"Keeping your husband, means you do what you have to so he doesn't leave you" Is this true?

For every 5 women AND men you ask, their experience will reveal that in some cases they (or their woman/Queen/Earth) did everything seemingly that the other wanted and it still didn't work out. There are many that will read that part of the degree and think just that - If this method has worked for you, we'd like to hear from you about your experience and what your limitations of this are, if any.

"Keeping your husband, means keeping your self"

Is this true?

My experience and from other sisters I've spoken to revealed that they are best able to take care of their God/King/Husband and family and they themselves are at their best. Yet, as Original Woman we almost always put ourselves last in every aspect of our lives. This leaves us bitter, tired, frustrated, dissatisfied, and in general chaotic within ourselves, thus not able to truly reflect properly, nor understand God's Cipher. So, sisters, make sure you take time out for yourself to regroup, meditate, have a girls night out, read your favorite book, or even 5 minutes to recharge back to your best... So you can continue to sustain your Original Man.

"Keeping your husband, means to conserve and maintain him and his best interest"

Is this true?

One of the points discussed at the International Earth Conference is how hard it is to get our men to see a doctor, or other health professional, how to get them to refine their diets, or just simply groom their nails. I think that so many times we get caught up in their wants, that we do not pay attention to their needs. We must make sure that we can maintain the skills and tools to be able to proactively identify the medical, dietary, and psychological needs of our counterpart. There are some sisters who have that on LOCK... they are great at truly conserving and preserving their husbands/Gods and learn each and every day from their wisdom.

"Keeping Your Husband, means..."

What are your thoughts on this?

PEACE
Queen Victorious Lanasia Earth